Are you the best version of you?

Published April 6, 2016

Are you the best version of you?

Karl Marx said it best, “Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.

I came across this quote a couple months back and it hasn’t left me since. I reflect a lot, especially as we come up on our 2 year anniversary of Golden Phoenix CrossFit. The past 6 months has taught me a lot about myself, and the members, turned family.

We recently embarked on a nutrition challenge to see what would happen, it was a “what do we have to lose” mentality. After seeing such great results we had gotten about 50 people on board with this plan. During the nutrition journey is when I stumbled across the Karl Marx quote. I realized the first time we went out to dinner, how easy it was to stay on course of our diet with others around me doing it. I was surrounded with like-minded people and that was more than half the battle. The nutrition challenge helped glue our members together. It gave them a commonality, a goal, a conversation piece, and sometimes a “misery loves company” feeling. As the members started to look and feel better, and their confidence boosted, the morale of an already incredible vibe within the gym, got even better.

However, this quote goes deeper. With the events that have occurred over the past 2 years we took “Surrounding yourself with people who make you happy” to another level. We blocked out the bull-shit, turn on the blinders and have built an empire. We do things to better our business, not to make others jealous. There is no malicious intent behind anything we do, because we understand karma is a funny thing. We do things that make our members smile, because that’s what makes us smile. While the texts, emails, and hugs of appreciation never get old, I feel forever indebted to our members everyday, who have actually changed my life. It’s the days where I feel like “putting on a face” is hard, a member will come in with their most recent achieved goal and I am instantly filled with joy and wealth.

At times the bull-shit sneaks back into my life and becomes a downward spiral and waste of 15 minutes of my time on social media. However, each time becomes a constant reminder of how well Bridget and I have built our Golden Phoenix brand. Our members are making constant strides in their fitness journeys. Its very obvious, others have not. The barbell doesn’t lie. The scale doesn’t lie. And the jeans that once fit you don’t either. Cheap brands produce cheap results. What you put into life is what you get out of it. This was proven to our members in their 10 week nutrition challenge. It takes 100% commitment, and the right people in your corner, for things to work out. Nothing replaces hard work, not in nutrition, not in your workouts, and not in your daily life.

I took a nutrition journey for all the right reasons…for Me. I once told Bridget “I want to look like I work in fitness”. I want people to look at me in everyday life and know a large portion of what I do throughout the day, was dedicated to wellness. I wanted to also have an experience to pass onto my members and have every answer for all of their questions. Would you go to an overweight cardiologist? How about a fat nutritionist? So then why would you join my gym if I didn’t look like the best version of Me.

My members, no matter the age, gender, size, or background, all have a common goal: be better than yesterday. If they aren’t, or have dwindled in their journey I would take it personally. I am the first to agree, life gets very much in the way and sometimes it takes a someone else to reel you back in, but my job is to never let my members lose sight of that.

When I surrounded myself with people who genuinely cared, I ended up getting the best coaching staff money could buy. Trust is hard to come by and difficult to build. My team is unlike any other. They each contribute a different, but important piece to the puzzle that makes us better than the rest. The laughs and love is endless and their aren’t words grand enough to express that. These people share the same goals and values as Bridget and I, that is priceless.

I sleep at night knowing I have impacted someone’s life in a positive way. I have noticed when other people aren’t satisfied in their life, they don’t allow the people around them to reach their full potential either. As I said earlier “misery loves company”.  When you make it your life’s goal to be the best version of you, you can only bring others up with you. Spread positivity, its contagious.


-Jacqueline Murphy

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